Apology email

Apologize once, then fix it

Paste your apology. ToneSwap owns the mistake in one sentence, cuts the grovelling and the excuses, and keeps your plan to fix it.

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Work Email tone

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How it works

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Paste your draft

Your own words, however rough. Or try the example to see what changes.

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Apologize is already selected

Keep Work Email for most messages, or pick Quick Reply for a colleague you write to every day.

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Copy and send

The rewrite uses only the facts in your draft. Read it once, then copy it into your email.

Before and after

Real kinds of drafts, rewritten with the advice below. The rewrites keep only what the draft says: no new facts, dates or promises.

A missed deadline

Draft

Hi Raj, I'm really sorry, I know I said I'd have the report to you by Monday and I didn't, I've just been completely overwhelmed. I'm so sorry. I will send it Wednesday.

Better

Hi Raj, I'm sorry I missed Monday's deadline for the report. I'll send it to you on Wednesday.

The wrong attachment

Draft

Hi all, apologies!! I accidentally attached the wrong file to my last email, sorry for the confusion and any inconvenience. Here's the correct version attached.

Better

Hi all, I attached the wrong file to my last email. The correct version is attached to this one. Sorry for the confusion.

A mistake a client noticed

Draft

Hi Ms. Chen, I am so, so sorry about the invoice mix-up, I really apologize, it was totally my fault and I feel awful. Sorry again for the trouble. The corrected invoice is attached.

Better

Hi Ms. Chen, I'm sorry about the invoice mix-up. It was my mistake. The corrected invoice is attached.

How to apologize in an email

Five rules that cover most cases.

Say sorry once, early, and specifically

"I'm sorry I sent the wrong invoice" names the mistake. "Sorry for any inconvenience" sounds like a form letter.

Own it without blaming

A short clause of context is fine. A paragraph about the system, the team or the week reads as an excuse, even when every word is true.

Say what happens next

The fix, the corrected file, or what you will do differently matters more to the reader than how bad you feel.

Do not grovel

Repeating "sorry" and "I feel terrible" moves the focus to your feelings and quietly asks the reader to comfort you.

Match the size of the mistake

A broken link needs one line. A missed client deadline needs an apology, a fix and a date.

Phrases to swap

Small changes that make the same email clearer.

Instead of: Sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused
Try: I'm sorry I sent the wrong invoice
Instead of: I feel terrible, I'm so so sorry
Try: I'm sorry (once is enough)
Instead of: Mistakes were made
Try: I made a mistake
Instead of: The system was down, and the team was short-staffed, and...
Try: One clause of context at most
Instead of: It won't happen again
Try: From now on I'll check the numbers before sending. (Only if you will.)

A template to start from

Fill in the brackets, then paste it into the box at the top to make it sound like you.

Hi [name],

I'm sorry I [the specific mistake].

[The fix: what you have done or will do, and when.]

[Optional: what you will do differently.]

[you]

Before you send

Not sure how your email will come across? Paste it into the email tone checker: it shows the tone, the words causing it, and what to change first. To write emails like this in Gmail without copying them here, add the Chrome extension, which puts a Rewrite button next to Send.

Other situations: say no in an email, follow-up email, polite request email, reply to an email. More reading: confident email phrases and how to soften a blunt message.

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